“How do I plan a meaningful birthday for my partner that strengthens our relationship?”
“Why does my long-term relationship feel more like a business than romance?”
“What is the key to keeping passion alive in a long-term relationship?”
On today’s episode of Sex, Love & Elephants, I’m fresh off a romantic birthday getaway to Tofino, British Columbia and I’m using my experience to create a challenge for you. I’m sharing the story of my own birthday celebration, talking about the three keys to lasting passion, and issuing a 12-month birthday challenge to couples everywhere, complete with a prize for those who take me up on it!
One simple but powerful question anchors this episode: What did you do for your partner’s last birthday? Whatever your answer, I want you to do better—and I’ll show you exactly how.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
(04:35) Birthdays matter even if your partner “doesn’t care,” the real point is making them feel chosen
(06:00) The 12-month birthday challenge: how to plan something meaningful that truly lights your partner up, from a $0 backyard picnic to an African safari
(09:18) My own surprise birthday trip for my hubby: grizzly bears, a glacier helicopter tour, hot springs, and horses
(11:40) Novelty is an aphrodisiac and even one night away from home can shift your whole dynamic
(18:51) The Passion Triangle: Intimacy, Thrill, and Sensuality—and why “Thrill” is exactly what birthdays were made for
(22:00) The sobering stat: 30–40% of long-term couples aren’t having sex at all and what my free masterclass covers on this topic
(24:30) Today’s LoveByte: How to fall in love over and over again with the one you’re already with
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