What if one of the biggest lies about love is the idea that you simply need to find “the one”?

We are taught that when we meet our soulmate, love should feel easy.

The chemistry should last.

Our partner should make us happy.

And when passion fades, conflict appears, or intimacy becomes harder, we may start wondering whether we chose the wrong person.

But great love is not simply found.

It is created by two imperfect people who are willing to keep showing up, growing, and loving one another with intention.

I recently joined Kute Blackson on his SoulTalk podcast for a frank and soulful conversation about the relationship myths that quietly sabotage even strong couples.

We explored why your partner was never meant to be solely responsible for your happiness, how the soulmate myth can damage lasting love, and why chemistry is not the same as compatibility.

We also talked about what happens when the spark fades, how couples can rebuild intimacy, and why a relationship can become one of our greatest spiritual practices.

The truth is, lasting love is not effortless.

It asks us to become more honest.

More awake.

More curious.

More willing to turn toward our sweetie instead of assuming the problem is simply that we chose the wrong person.

This conversation may challenge some of what you have been taught about love.

But it may also help you stop waiting for love to happen and begin creating it.

Listen to the full conversation

You can hear the full episode of SoulTalk with Kute Blackson here: