Mindful Life
Will Smith Was FLOODED đ§ – Can you relate?
April 26, 2022
In this video I explain WHY Will smith lost his mind and what we can learn from it: Watch now.
Not “In Love”?… Lousy Sex Life? …Ready to Fix it? Couples Program begins Saturday â¤ď¸đĽ
October 27, 2020
Ready to fix your relationship? Watch now.
Go have some FUN with your Sweetie (and win a prize!?)
June 23, 2020
2020 has been tough so far… here’s why it’s important to remember “FOR-PLAY” Watch now.
Love In the Age of COVID (and what we can learn)
March 17, 2020
What can we learn about love from COVID-19? (A Dharma Perspective): Watch to learn more.
Why Busy Couples Risk Disconnect and How to Fix It (Don’t Let Work Ruin your Relationship)
February 25, 2020
How busy couples risk disconnect (and how to fix it): Watch now.
Season’s Greetings!
December 24, 2019
Season’s Greetings from Dr. Cheryl Fraser and the Team: Watch now
How I Almost Quit Couples Therapyâand LoveâUntil Mindfulness Saved Me
February 5, 2019
How I Almost Quit Couples Therapyâand LoveâUntil Mindfulness Saved Me. Read the full article excerpted from Gottman.com
Slowing Your Mind is Great Foreplay
December 5, 2018
If you want to have sex more often, meditate. Say what?! The image of a stoic, cross-legged person suddenly leaping up, tearing off their comfy clothes and tackling their stunned (yet probably delighted) partner isnât exactly commonly associated with mindfulness. Well, perhaps itâs time to change that. The proposed effects of meditation on the body and the mind have implications for both your interest in making love and your sexual pleasure itself. So that weekend silent retreat or weekly MBSR class can improve your sex life, if you want it to.
Touch More, Touch Often – The Science of Mindful Loving
June 21, 2018
I love to watch people touch the ones they love. When I witnessed the birth of my beloved friendsâ daughter, the most poignant moment was watching the first-time father tear his shirt off and hold the minutes-old infant to his bare, receptive chest. Skin on skin, heart to heart. At our best, we intuitively use touch to span the distance between us. Two separate bodies and minds, me and you, become an âusâ when we embrace. That which is brokenâa promise, a skinned knee, even a heartâis coaxed toward fullness again in the incubator of a loved oneâs arms.
Since touching each other brings a multitude of emotional, physical, and social health benefits youâd think weâd be cuddling all the time. Yet our culture is touch-deprived.
When the Gloves Come Off – Can Meditation help you Fight Fair?
May 3, 2018
This morning I awoke feeling peaceful and happy. I smiled as I listened to the singing birds. Then I heard the revving of a garbage truck. Leaving. I turned toward the man I love and snapped, âArg! You forgot to take the garbage out AGAIN didnât you? Youâre so lazy!â I jumped out of bed, grabbed the mutts and headed for the beach. I glowered at the overflowing trash cans, blaming them for not strolling to the curb. Then my angelic tufted-toed orange dog saw another canine. Instead of a wiggly hello, she barked and lunged. Like mother, like daughter.
Letâs face it. Sometimes, despite the hours logged on the cushion, despite the meditation retreats, and certainly despite our best intentions, we donât handle relationship conflict well. Iâve written a lot about how mindfulness makes us better lovers. But can it make us better âfightersâ?