Why you need to Plan for Passion if you want a great Love Relationship

January 11, 2019

You can make your relationship more fun, sexy and passionate in 2019 – if you Plan for Passion. Click here to watch the video now.

Create A Passionate New Year

January 5, 2019

Make The New Year Passionate! (and find out why I cried when I opened a box today) Click here to watch the video now.

The Greatest Gift You Can Give Is The Gift Of Presence

December 28, 2018

The Greatest Gift You Can Give Is The Gift Of Presence. Want to learn more? Click here to watch the video now.

Passion Takes Action! Order Buddha’s Bedroom And Get An Amazing Gift!

December 12, 2018

Get your love off the back burner by taking action. Order Buddha’s Bedroom today and get an amazing gift! Click here to watch the video now.

Slowing Your Mind is Great Foreplay

December 5, 2018

If you want to have sex more often, meditate. Say what?! The image of a stoic, cross-legged person suddenly leaping up, tearing off their comfy clothes and tackling their stunned (yet probably delighted) partner isn’t exactly commonly associated with mindfulness. Well, perhaps it’s time to change that. The proposed effects of meditation on the body and the mind have implications for both your interest in making love and your sexual pleasure itself. So that weekend silent retreat or weekly MBSR class can improve your sex life, if you want it to.

What Happens When You Break Something In Your Relationship?

October 19, 2018

Today I want to talk about the greatest couples apology template I can offer you. A simple 3 step process for apologizing to begin the healing process in your relationship. Click here to watch the video now.

Summer Is A Mindset

September 11, 2018

Summer is a state of mind. This video is all about how summer spices up your love life and how it doesn’t have to end there. It’s about prioritizing your lover life. Click here to watch the video now.

Does your fighting predict the end?

July 3, 2018

All couples argue. The question is, are you simply a fiery emotional pair? Think about those movie scenes where she yells at him, he shouts back that he won’t put up with this anymore, and suddenly they’re kissing passionately. If this is you, disagreement may be your idea of foreplay. But be careful; sticks and stones break bones, but sometimes words really can scar souls and break marriages.

Here’s my diagnosis: Your fights are healthy if they are infrequent, brief and—despite raised voices and heated words—end up in a resolution where both of you feel loved and heard…and then maybe even have great make-up sex. Your fights are unhealthy if they often involve name-calling or threats to end the relationship, or if they are not resolved and leave one of you feeling frustrated or wronged. In essence, does the fight bring you closer, or push you apart?

Touch More, Touch Often – The Science of Mindful Loving

June 21, 2018

I love to watch people touch the ones they love. When I witnessed the birth of my beloved friends’ daughter, the most poignant moment was watching the first-time father tear his shirt off and hold the minutes-old infant to his bare, receptive chest. Skin on skin, heart to heart. At our best, we intuitively use touch to span the distance between us. Two separate bodies and minds, me and you, become an “us” when we embrace. That which is broken—a promise, a skinned knee, even a heart—is coaxed toward fullness again in the incubator of a loved one’s arms.

Since touching each other brings a multitude of emotional, physical, and social health benefits you’d think we’d be cuddling all the time. Yet our culture is touch-deprived.

When the Gloves Come Off – Can Meditation help you Fight Fair?

May 3, 2018

This morning I awoke feeling peaceful and happy. I smiled as I listened to the singing birds. Then I heard the revving of a garbage truck. Leaving. I turned toward the man I love and snapped, “Arg! You forgot to take the garbage out AGAIN didn’t you? You’re so lazy!” I jumped out of bed, grabbed the mutts and headed for the beach. I glowered at the overflowing trash cans, blaming them for not strolling to the curb. Then my angelic tufted-toed orange dog saw another canine. Instead of a wiggly hello, she barked and lunged. Like mother, like daughter.

Let’s face it. Sometimes, despite the hours logged on the cushion, despite the meditation retreats, and certainly despite our best intentions, we don’t handle relationship conflict well. I’ve written a lot about how mindfulness makes us better lovers. But can it make us better “fighters”?